Hope this note finds you enjoying cooler temperatures and getting ready to switch out your seasonal clothing needs. Remember: pack away only that which you love; which fits well; which makes you feel great - donate all the rest! Sharing your abundance is so worthwhile, right?
I've been helping some clients recently who are feeling very emotional with their 'right-sizing,' getting ready to move into smaller surroundings in the near future. Their children, even their friends, aren't particularly enthralled with the idea of having their 'stuff.' Yes, indeed: one person's treasures can be seen as another person's junk!
One thing to remember: do not take this personally! As a little blurb in a periodical reported recently: "It's not that your kids don't love you. They don't love your stuff." (Marni Jameson) Having folks see what you are offering and then seeing if they are interested is the way to go, and then truly listen to them. No guilt, please! Again, per Ms. Jameson, "The line between bestow and burden is blurry. They don't need to hold on to your belongings to hold you in their hearts." I agree 100%!
I have read and suggested many books to clients over the years, and recently became aware of a great help for all of you in this situation. It's through AARP, and this workbook will help you tremendously! Easy to fill-in-the-blanks sheets will help you zero-in on what really matters and those items that will be easier to part with. The link below will take you to Amazon, where you can order it for minimal expense. Downsizing the Family Home
One of the most important things about 'stuff' to remember is this: Your memories are NOT tied up with 'the thing.' Tough to accept, but once your memory starts to go, 'the thing' will not spur those memories to come flooding back. So, share those items with those who want them, who want something to remember you by, or better yet, something they can actually use, not just dust periodically.
Here's to acceptance of the changes that are duly coming; to only keeping that which you love and can use; to sharing only that which others truly want and can use themselves!
Hope the summer finds you enjoying many things - inside and outside! We've had so much more extreme heat than normal; little wind to blow the wildfire smoke away; and no rain for over two months now - it's hard to want to be outside, right? Plans are constantly changing at the last minute due to poor air quality and the desire to do the right thing for our precious lungs! Is that frustrating to you, or are you able to just 'punt' and go to Plan B?
It's always hard to remember that most of what we encounter in Life is not 'planned' for us, and the more you try to plan (or organize!), the more frustration you may feel. This counts not only for the outdoor concert you purchased tickets for; that bike ride you were going to take yesterday with friends; as well as that organizing project you had intended not only to start, but complete!
Yes, jotting a 'to-do' on your calendar or scratch pad signifies your intention to get to something, but guess what? Other stuff, in one way or another, will trip you up in some manner, surely! "But, I could just see myself getting that done today," you argue. Right ... but remember that not throwing in the towel on that vision, that expectation, still means that it is important enough for you to reschedule that activity, not give up on it! "Murphy's Law" will always trip you up - but you can get past it!
Here's to your peace and tranquility as we continue to float in and around all the heat of summer!
Wow! This issue is the start of the 10th year I've sent my little missives out! Time flies while you're having fun, right? Admittedly, I've been a bit hit-or-miss lately, but you're still always on my mind and I so enjoy sharing my various organizing and productivity thoughts with you. So, with that in mind ... onward to an event that is affecting most of us now: school's out for summer!
Remember that song? I had to Google it because Jim and I couldn't remember who sang it. So, whether you like the Alice Cooper version (the one I remember) or the one by The Chipmunks (ack!), it's generally a pretty happy albeit loud ditty. The thing is, it's a reminder that we're into a new season, a new time of different and fun activities and, hopefully, much less 'normal' routine. All of which brings its own excitement as well as dilemmas.
For instance, we must watch out for kids on bikes or various transport all over the streets and sidewalks now, at any time of the day. No school buses or school zones means folks are speeding through areas they're usually much more cautious about. No 'school routine' means parents are shuffling their little ones between various summer activities, camps, friends' homes and whathaveyou. All of this creates some tension due to the newness of the requirements and settling into a comfortable routine that gets everyone through their work day and all back home for the evening meal or planning that family vacation to the Grand Canyon.
Yes, routine is very comforting, but it's also a great challenge to throw something new into the mix, right? We even cook differently in the summer: BBQing takes center-stage for food prep. Salads become a big deal and soups get set aside for cooler weather. Heating costs go down, but your A/C and water costs start to climb. Gardening and yard work take up huge chunks of time, but the beauty and serenity they provide to our homes is so worth it. Budgeting for fun can be daunting, but somehow when we factor in the 'learning experiences' and camaraderie of all we plan, money becomes an issue that we tend to ignore until later - when those bills arrive!
So, let spontaneity rule a bit, OK? School shopping, parent conferences, too many extracurricular activities can all wait until we've enjoyed the joys of this new, hopefully more relaxing time of year. Enjoy your lovely yards and patios; sip your iced tea; have picnics with friends and family; and put your feet up a bit. All the rest can wait until .... later!
Wishing you a joyful, peaceful but exciting summer!
While a friend was wishing me a Happy Birthday last month (yep - 29 again!), he shared a news clip from CBS Sunday Morning. I want to forego my regular sharings this month so that your time can be spent on this great review of all-things-organized-and-how-to! It's about 7 1/2 minutes, so I'll leave you to it! Any thoughts or comments? Be sure to share with me: I love that!
Wishing you a wonderful Mother's Day; spring picnic weekend; success in getting a handle on the last of your yard clean-up (sure....)!
Well, it's been a year since our last National Day of Unplugging! I didn't want to give you too much notice of this challenge, because I didn't want you to over-think it and bail on me! Just the thought of not having some sort of electronic device attached to their hand makes some folks crazy!
I still won't carry a cell phone unless I'm traveling away from the area and truly do believe that the insistence of being wired 24/7 is a lack of time management! Plan ahead; make your lists; know your route; low and behold: you don't have to rely on the machinery always within arms length of too many of us, way too often! Just my bid for some Civil Disobedience in a world that pushes me to be connected to any and all, all the time. "Just say 'no'!" "But what about an emergency?" frantic folks ask. The few times we have needed something like that, we were out of cell-phone coverage anyway!
When one of the founders of Twitter, Ev Williams, is on the talk-show circuit that the craziness needs to stop; when Mark Zukerberg of Facebook is having his techs work on ways to slow down the proliferation of hours and days spent on his site and others; when apps are now seen by psychology gurus as loading folks with a 'sugar hit" .... Something needs to give, right??
Roger McNamee, an early investor in Facebook and Google share:
“Like gambling, nicotine, alcohol or heroin, Facebook and Google — most importantly through its YouTube subsidiary — produce short-term happiness with serious negative consequences in the long term.
... the big Internet companies know more about you than you know about yourself, which gives them huge power to influence you, to persuade you to do things that serve their economic interests. Facebook, Google and others compete for each consumer’s attention, reinforcing biases and reducing the diversity of ideas to which each is exposed. The degree of harm grows over time.
... The fault lies with advertising business models that drive companies to maximize attention at all costs, leading to ever more aggressive brain hacking.” WOW - strong stuff, right?
Tristan Harris of the non-profit "Time Well Spent" is also extremely concerned, with the company's goal to “stop technology platforms from hijacking our minds, and to start putting our best interests first”
So, can I dare you to turn off all your electronics and just see what it's like to have TWO HANDS FREE for only 24 hours, starting tonight at sunset, through tomorrow at sunset? Go outside; have coffee, face-to-face with a friend; read a book! I'd love to know of your survival rate for this challenge, OK? Just email me from here, if you'd like. I'll share comments in a future newsletter!
Here's to the beginning of your recognition that we need to take back our brains!
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