This great old cartoon tells you where I'm going with this month's newsletter, and haven't we all been here?! Yep - this is exactly what I teach you all, here and as clients, but I also have a bit of 'me, too' about all this. My coaching tells you that you have an ever-changing, every-evolving persona, and we need to be ready for that and embrace these changes. That includes adjusting your space and everything in it to suit The New You!
One of the biggest changes for me was the realization, many years ago now, that I was no longer going to reside in the Corporate World. I gladly donated/sold my beautiful suits, got rid of the high heels and nylons and all the paraphernalia that goes along with that. One last thing, though, took me a long time to finally ditch: my brass name plate! Can you just imagine how silly that is? Sheesh ....
It was, truly, acknowledging that part of my life was over and done with, and I most certainly didn't need it on my desk as a solo-preneur! Can't remember what I did with it - it's probably in a landfill somewhere (my bad) - but I remember the relief in acknowledging that a 'new me' was now ready to blossom and grow. Hooray!
So, one more pile to deal with now, related to the above cartoon: years ago, I purchased and enrolled in a productivity certification system that seemed like it might take my business to 'the next level.' Not only did I dole out over a $1000 for the program, related books and materials, but I convinced a colleague to do the same! And, then? The team involved decided to retire and all was for naught! UGH!
While we might have been allowed to profer some of the materials and coaching within specific parameters, just the thought of presenting any bit of it out of those parameters was legally daunting. I did not need a lawsuit over something that like! So, for years the pile has sat in my bookshelf, taking up needed space!
OK, heed my lesson here: GET RID of stuff that causes you any sense of negativity or angst! Meet the New You with excitement and have the space allowed to do just that! I'm doing that today, before I even get showered and into my day, and then can rearrange the books I do refer to, read and reread in the space I've so needed, instead of being on top of other books!
WOW! Do I feel better? Do I feel powerful? Do I feel ready to meet new challenges and adventures, instead of grousing on 'what might have been'? You bet! Regrets? Not a one!
Here's to your success in jumping in and finding something that's been bugging you! Onward toward positivity in change and owning your present, instead of being bogged down by your past!!! Yahoo!!!
Hope this note finds you enjoying cooler temperatures and getting ready to switch out your seasonal clothing needs. Remember: pack away only that which you love; which fits well; which makes you feel great - donate all the rest! Sharing your abundance is so worthwhile, right?
I've been helping some clients recently who are feeling very emotional with their 'right-sizing,' getting ready to move into smaller surroundings in the near future. Their children, even their friends, aren't particularly enthralled with the idea of having their 'stuff.' Yes, indeed: one person's treasures can be seen as another person's junk!
One thing to remember: do not take this personally! As a little blurb in a periodical reported recently: "It's not that your kids don't love you. They don't love your stuff." (Marni Jameson) Having folks see what you are offering and then seeing if they are interested is the way to go, and then truly listen to them. No guilt, please! Again, per Ms. Jameson, "The line between bestow and burden is blurry. They don't need to hold on to your belongings to hold you in their hearts." I agree 100%!
I have read and suggested many books to clients over the years, and recently became aware of a great help for all of you in this situation. It's through AARP, and this workbook will help you tremendously! Easy to fill-in-the-blanks sheets will help you zero-in on what really matters and those items that will be easier to part with. The link below will take you to Amazon, where you can order it for minimal expense. Downsizing the Family Home
One of the most important things about 'stuff' to remember is this: Your memories are NOT tied up with 'the thing.' Tough to accept, but once your memory starts to go, 'the thing' will not spur those memories to come flooding back. So, share those items with those who want them, who want something to remember you by, or better yet, something they can actually use, not just dust periodically.
Here's to acceptance of the changes that are duly coming; to only keeping that which you love and can use; to sharing only that which others truly want and can use themselves!
Hope the summer finds you enjoying many things - inside and outside! We've had so much more extreme heat than normal; little wind to blow the wildfire smoke away; and no rain for over two months now - it's hard to want to be outside, right? Plans are constantly changing at the last minute due to poor air quality and the desire to do the right thing for our precious lungs! Is that frustrating to you, or are you able to just 'punt' and go to Plan B?
It's always hard to remember that most of what we encounter in Life is not 'planned' for us, and the more you try to plan (or organize!), the more frustration you may feel. This counts not only for the outdoor concert you purchased tickets for; that bike ride you were going to take yesterday with friends; as well as that organizing project you had intended not only to start, but complete!
Yes, jotting a 'to-do' on your calendar or scratch pad signifies your intention to get to something, but guess what? Other stuff, in one way or another, will trip you up in some manner, surely! "But, I could just see myself getting that done today," you argue. Right ... but remember that not throwing in the towel on that vision, that expectation, still means that it is important enough for you to reschedule that activity, not give up on it! "Murphy's Law" will always trip you up - but you can get past it!
Here's to your peace and tranquility as we continue to float in and around all the heat of summer!
Wow! This issue is the start of the 10th year I've sent my little missives out! Time flies while you're having fun, right? Admittedly, I've been a bit hit-or-miss lately, but you're still always on my mind and I so enjoy sharing my various organizing and productivity thoughts with you. So, with that in mind ... onward to an event that is affecting most of us now: school's out for summer!
Remember that song? I had to Google it because Jim and I couldn't remember who sang it. So, whether you like the Alice Cooper version (the one I remember) or the one by The Chipmunks (ack!), it's generally a pretty happy albeit loud ditty. The thing is, it's a reminder that we're into a new season, a new time of different and fun activities and, hopefully, much less 'normal' routine. All of which brings its own excitement as well as dilemmas.
For instance, we must watch out for kids on bikes or various transport all over the streets and sidewalks now, at any time of the day. No school buses or school zones means folks are speeding through areas they're usually much more cautious about. No 'school routine' means parents are shuffling their little ones between various summer activities, camps, friends' homes and whathaveyou. All of this creates some tension due to the newness of the requirements and settling into a comfortable routine that gets everyone through their work day and all back home for the evening meal or planning that family vacation to the Grand Canyon.
Yes, routine is very comforting, but it's also a great challenge to throw something new into the mix, right? We even cook differently in the summer: BBQing takes center-stage for food prep. Salads become a big deal and soups get set aside for cooler weather. Heating costs go down, but your A/C and water costs start to climb. Gardening and yard work take up huge chunks of time, but the beauty and serenity they provide to our homes is so worth it. Budgeting for fun can be daunting, but somehow when we factor in the 'learning experiences' and camaraderie of all we plan, money becomes an issue that we tend to ignore until later - when those bills arrive!
So, let spontaneity rule a bit, OK? School shopping, parent conferences, too many extracurricular activities can all wait until we've enjoyed the joys of this new, hopefully more relaxing time of year. Enjoy your lovely yards and patios; sip your iced tea; have picnics with friends and family; and put your feet up a bit. All the rest can wait until .... later!
Wishing you a joyful, peaceful but exciting summer!
While a friend was wishing me a Happy Birthday last month (yep - 29 again!), he shared a news clip from CBS Sunday Morning. I want to forego my regular sharings this month so that your time can be spent on this great review of all-things-organized-and-how-to! It's about 7 1/2 minutes, so I'll leave you to it! Any thoughts or comments? Be sure to share with me: I love that!
Wishing you a wonderful Mother's Day; spring picnic weekend; success in getting a handle on the last of your yard clean-up (sure....)!
Providing Peace and Harmony for your Home or Office. Tips on getting organized and staying organized. Cleaning up the clutter in your home or office.